Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation (Part 1)

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 9 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 9: Pitfall #4 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the “biggie,” the fourth pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #4

Attempting to Co-Create Without Healing Our Broken Hearts

In recent times, many studies and research has been done to prove what was considered common knowledge in ancient times, and that is the importance of living with a light and open heart.

The ancient Egyptians or Kemetians believed that when you died, you traveled to the Hall of the Dead, where your heart was weighed against the feather of Maat, the goddess of Justice. If your heart was lighter than the feather, you lived forever, but if it wasn’t you were devoured by the demon Ammit.

According to Gregg Braden, a popular author bridging the gap between ancient wisdom and technology, the heart is about a 100 times stronger electrically, and up to 5000 times stronger magnetically, than the brain, making it the strongest generator of both electrical and magnetic fields in the body.

Master Lin, founder of Spring Forest Qigong, once said in an interview that 90 percent of our power comes from our heart and only 10 percent comes from our mind. The mind is important in that it helps to direct the heart energy; however, until we have the courage to stay in our heart space, none of that power is available to us.

There are three main societal wounds that I want to mention here that can prevent conscious co-creation, because they serve as the platform or playground where most all initial heart breaks occur. These wounds are racism, sexism, and ageism. For those who are not familiar, ageism is discrimination based on one’s age and it can be viewed as a generational occurrence between elders and the youth, but of course that’s not the only way. It’s my contention that the more we as a collective heal these societal wounds, the less heart break would occur on the planet.

Since our minds are good at tricking us, we usually make rationalization for our actions, never admitting when we’ve hardened or closed our hearts.

Here’s a great indicator or first sign to determine when your heart might be broken:

When you start to talk negatively about a principle, a person or a people, that you once held in high enough regard to truly live your life for.

I learned this jewel from my mom when I was home from college one year and was feeling quite worn out and let down buy my elders and people who I thought should know better in the “conscious” community. There I was, slouched in my chair, clearly in a defeatist position, going on and on saying things like, “People don’t want to change, all they want to do is talk that mess!”

My mom took one look at me and my energy and said, “You know you have to really watch yourself, when the things you once used to care about, you are now talking negatively about.” Those words hit hard and rang true for me, even though at the time, I acted like they didn’t and blew them off.

Essentially, we can only do any action and think any thought in life in one of two places, and that is- inside our heart space or outside our heart space. When we think and act from the heart, we are able to see beyond the veil of illusion and create more good in our lives, in cycles and cycles. When we don’t, we fail prey to our unknown subconscious desires and manipulation from what Eckhart Tolle calls the collective pain body.

It would take me 19 years to understand that the greatest gift G.O.D granted me was to thwart my long-term career, intimate relationship, and financial success, so that I could first understand and then begin healing all the ways my heart had been broken over the years. If I were to have had long term financial success in my career and in my intimate relationships first without dealing with my broken heart, it would have been based on a false perception and wrong intention that no matter how vile or virtuous it may have looked like on the outside, would only be taking me further away for my true heart desires.

I can see this so clearly NOW. But at the time, I subconsciously thought my G.O.D and my Guides had forsaken me, adding another heartbreak to the mix. So essentially, for about a 19 year cycle, I have been going through smaller cycles of self evaluation, learning and perceptional growth that has helped me to heal and to appreciate where I am today.

Deliberate Creation

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Today’s inspiration comes from Day 200 of Manifest Your Desires: 365 Ways to Make Your Dreams A Reality by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Enjoy!

Deliberate Creation is not about the condition changing and then your finding a better feeling in response to the changed condition. Deliberate Creation is about choosing a thought that feels good when you choose it- which then causes the condition to change. “

Richie Parker- Manifesting Against All Odds

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Richie Parker is a shining example of what it looks like to Manifest Your Desires against all odds. Born with no hands, he is a successful automotive engineer for Hendrick Motor Sports, who drives his own car! In honor of Richie (and his wonderful parents), I dedicate this Manifest Monday to a true inspiration!

Pitfall #3 to Conscious Co-Creation

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 8 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 8: Pitfall #3 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the third pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator

Pitfall #3

Attempting to Co-Create Without Understanding Your Life Cycles

Okay, here is the part in the book where I’d like to do two things. One is clear the bad rap that astrology has been getting these days in this era of “we can create our own reality” and two is to make a shameless plug for my services. So let’s cover number one.

As a collective, we’ve reached a time in our evolution where many scientific breakthroughs have occurred enabling us to better understand the inner working of our minds, our emotions, our DNA and essentially the world. For some, it’s an empowering experience when they realize they can “rewrite the script” that was given to them from their parents, their society, and now even from their DNA.

For a lot of people, life on earth has been experienced as hell and they just want to change it. Subconsciously and for some consciously, they don’t understand how a loving G.O.D would make them suffer through what they’ve been through as part of a Divine Plan and as a backlash, they’ve come to rely more on science for the answers and the code to rewrite this miserable script. They say, “To hell with astrology and all its predetermined BS. That doesn’t apply to me now because I can rewrite my script.” Or they say, “A new day is dawning, God consciousness is within me, and all of that stuff is obsolete or doesn’t apply.”

Yet, I’m here to say that every single action we take in our lives, every experience we’ve had has meaning and is fulfilling a purpose and it’s the purpose and meaning WE give it.

In the movie “Matrix 2,” Neo asks the oracle, “If you already know, how can I make a choice.” She replies, “Because you didn’t come here to make the choice, you’ve already made it. You’re here to try to understand why you made it.”

When we as a collective lost our connection to Godsource, we also lost the connection and awareness between our Higher Self and Lower Self and our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. Understanding this, it becomes evident, that before wanting to go changing any script, we should focus on healing this disconnection. By focusing on understanding what the Creator and our Higher Self were up to before we incarnated here on earth, we unify this disconnection and thus become enlightened. Enlightened to what, you may ask? Enlightened to your whole Self, the unity of our conscious and subconscious mind, which, to me, is the true definition of Self-Love.

In doing this, we will find that up to that point of enlightenment, there was little of nothing that needed changing-only our perception and perspective about it.

Now some of you may be saying, “That’s nice, but I’m getting my ass kicked from my mate.” Or, “I just lost my job and I have nine mouths to feed.” Or, “I didn’t choose to get molested and raped by someone who says they love me. What do you say to this?”

Well first, I say the words from a B.T. Express song, “Do it. Do it. Do it to your satisfied, whatever it is.” And this could be to agree or disagree, to be angry, a victim, or seek revenge, to search for answers and make amends or ultimately to meet your end. It’s all good, because there will eventually come a time when you’ll be satisfied and move on to the next thing. And in my opinion, this is the best and only way we can ever do it.

Second I say, if circumstances have brought you here where you are reading my words, then there is a part of you, somewhere, that is ready to pay a bill that’s due.

So again, before we go rewriting the default programs that govern our existence, we need to understand and appreciate the great perfection that is already at the core of everything, including ourselves AND our experiences. An unknown author once said, “The journey is the dream. All that goes into the journey makes the dream worthwhile.” G.O.D, getting the chance to experience Itself through It’s creation, is the greatest and grandest Heroes or Shero’s Journey of them all.

Now for number two. Here is where I make a shameless plug for my services.

But first, here’s another analogy. Let’s say you don’t know for sure whether your light bill or your phone bill is due this week and you pay the wrong one and your lights get turned off. That can be an inconvenience right?

Well, the reason why understanding you life cycles to make better choices is so important is because it gives you a type of guideline of when certain cosmic bills AND paychecks are due. Or more accurately, can be due, based on your attitude, your perspective, and your actions. Because one man’s bill can be seen as another man’s paycheck and one woman’s paycheck can be seen as another woman’s bill.

Before I say anything else, I just want to share with you my approach to astrology and the Destiny Card system. First of all, you are NOT your card or sign. You are a divine reflection of the Creator and inherently capable of creating a life that includes ANYTHING you desire to co-create. Yet, just as the doctor makes the uniform and not the uniform the doctor, so too the person makes the card or sign and not the card or sign the person. Understanding why you chose a certain life path based on your birthdate brings clarity so that you can capitalize on strengths, minimize weaknesses and tap into the power of who you truly are.

Also, just as a farmer’s knowledge is useless if she doesn’t till the soil, plant the seed, and nurture it, so too is the knowledge gained from astrological consultations useless if one doesn’t apply it in life.

In the Destiny Cards system (an ancient form of astrology and numerology preserved in the ordinary deck of playing cards), the year begins on your birthday and is broken down into seven 52 day periods.

Each one of these seven periods is ruled by a planet. For instance, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, etc. These periods are the same for every year and are specific to your date of birth. For example, my 52 day Jupiter period starts on May 16th of every year. What I know about Jupiter is that it brings my greatest gifts, so I usually begin business ventures at this time. There is a lot more to this fascinating system, but I won’t go any further here. To learn more, you can go to my website Positive Options so that was Pitfall # 3. Next, we’ll be covering the biggie-Pitfall #4

Pitfall #2 to Conscious Co-Creation

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 7 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 7: Pitfall #2 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the second pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #2

Attempting to Co-Create Without Releasing Old Programming

We all want to have positivity in our lives. We want to be positive, think and act positive and create positive things. Yet, there is only one way to make it to the next positive and promising day and that is by going through the night. This natural phenomena of day and night, serves as a simple analogy, here in life to show us that this is and on-going process. This process can lead to more and more good in our lives, in cycles and cycles IF we just allow it to.

Now we’ve already covered some techniques to release old programming in a previous chapter. And we’ve also covered how important it is to let this process run its own course, so I won’t say much more here except for one thing. Beware of the Quick Fix! Here’s another analogy to bring this point home:

Imagine this. Let’s say you are one of those people who now understands the importance of self sufficiency and developing a relationship with Mother Earth. So you made it a priority to buy some land and now you want to grow food so you can eat from your own garden. So there you are one day, working in the yard, learning all this stuff for the first time and along comes Jack or should I say Jackal? Anyway, that’s not important. So he sees you working in the yard and he steps to you and says, “Why are you out here working in the hot sun?” You reply, “Because I want to create a garden I can eat from.” He replies, “Oh, is that it? You want to eat. Oh man, I know a way where you can be eating in no time. You don’t have to worry about digging and planting and breaking your back, then waiting and worrying about the harvest season.” You look up at him and say, “Really?”, curious to know what he has in mind. Then he says, “Yeah, they just opened up a farmer’s market 5 minutes from here. They sell everything and it’s all organic. All you have to do is go and buy what you want. They even accept visa and food stamps!”

Now, if you were really serious about your newly found convictions of establishing a relationship with the Earth and being self sufficient, wouldn’t you look at him sideways? Yet, if you weren’t really serious, you might say, “Weeeell, he’s got a point.”

So, I share this story to say, there are no quick fixes. What I’m sharing with you in this book can be likened to me showing up in your yard that day and saying, “Oh, so you are growing food too! Here, let me share with you what I learned from my almanac about when is the best time to plant that seed.” Or, “I know where you can order the best quality seeds and new garden tools. I also belong to this local first time farmers group that can share lots of tips with you.” Like that. So, again, there are no quick fixes. Okay, that was Pitfall #2. Next, we’ll be covering Pitfall #3.

Pitfall #1 to Conscious Co-Creation

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 6 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 6: Pitfall #1 to Conscious Co-Creation

In this chapter, we’ll be covering the first pitfall to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator.

Pitfall #1

Attempting to Co-Create Without Knowing Who We Are

Now we already covered how important it is to know Who and What GOD is and our intrinsic worth as an aspect of Divinity. Believe me when I say that this is crucial to our ultimate success. If you don’t understand your worth, and more importantly, if you don’t really believe and truly know just what you are an expression of, like you know your name or when you have to go to the bathroom, then you can NEVER be a conscious co- creator for long (and I’ll explain what I mean by for long in a minute).

Imagine this. Say you want to plant a mango tree but you don’t know what the seeds look like and someone sold you some apple seeds and told you they were mango seeds. Your person might be shocked and even disappointed when harvest time came and you see apples instead of mangoes growing. Now, was the problem nature’s fault that you didn’t get mangos? Did the process of planting and harvesting let you down? No! The issue was you didn’t know the value or worth or essence of the seed that you bought.

Let’s get back to my comment about not being able to be a conscious co-creator for long without knowing your Intrinsic Divinity.

Since the time that we as a collective lost our connection to Godsource, we have all been a work in progress. This progress and process happens in cycles and cycles. Essentially and ironically, it’s the reason why we are actually even here. So all the things that we’ve ever done to improve ourselves and our position in the world. All the rituals and chants, all the vegan food, nutritional supplements and nanogold, all the meditation and brain entrainment and hypnosis, all the cleansing baths and spiritual transmissions from spiritual healers, all of these things are essential and help us along on our journey, especially if we feel called to them for whatever reason.

Yet, if we think these things give us power, rather than the power being within, they may work for awhile because they are powerful practices, but eventually we have to run into our own limiting beliefs about Who GOD is and Who we are in relationship to this Source, in cycles and cycles. It’s what we signed up for when we incarnated here on Earth.

There’s a line I love in the movie Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood when an old lady gives the main character this advice, “Sooner or later, everybody’s bill comes due.” I’ll talk more about this cyclical “paying of dues” in another pitfall later. Okay, that was Pitfall #1. Next, we’ll be covering Pitfall #2

Conscious Co-Creation: Step 5

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 5 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 5: Conscious Co-Creation: Step 5
In this chapter, I’ll be sharing the fifth step to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator and as always, I’ll have an activity for you at the end.

Step #5
Stay Present With Presence, Releasing the Need for Approval and the Need to Impress

Before I get started on Step 5, we’ll do another quick review:
Step 1: Know Who and What GOD Is.
Step 2: Know your Intrinsic Worth as an Aspect of Divinity
Step 3: Align Your Person, Your Power, and Your Purpose With the Creator of All That Is
Step 4: Allow Old Charge to Come Up Without Resistance

When we truly realize that we are an aspect of Divinity experiencing Itself through Its creation, life takes on a totally different tone. There are many reason why in the old paradigm, this knowledge of Who and What God Is and our relationship to Divinity, has been kept hidden from the masses by the societal structures and authorities of the day.

Now, we are birthing a NEW paradigm which is based on revisiting and uncovering the ancient teachings and making them applicable for our current times. With this new consciousness that is flooding the planet comes an exciting and new responsibility. In a lot of ways, it can be seen as our greatest freedom encapsulated in our greatest challenge.

Khalil Gibran, author of the famous book The Prophet is quoted for saying, “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” So, what is this great challenge that I speak of? In a nutshell, it’s this:

Seeking Energy From Another Person or Thing Rather Than Godsource

Because we have spent so much time being disconnected to our God source, life on earth has become a place where we struggle (consciously or unconsciously) to gain our energy from another person or thing. Most of us were never even taught that we actually CAN, tap into our inner power as our main source of energy.

Here’s a good analogy:
Did you know that in 1896, Henry Ford built his first automobile to run on pure ethanol, stating it was a cleaner, cheaper, better fuel for automobiles than gasoline? Yet, it was John D. Rockefeller, owner of Standard Oil, who successfully funded lobbyist to push Congress to pass the Prohibition laws that made alcohol illegal and thus began his monopoly of fueling gasoline run cars. If this seems hard to believe, do your own research and you’ll see.

Yet, I only share this to bring home the point that there are and always has been, other positive options for getting our energy, rather than how we were raised to get it from another person or thing. And what do I actually mean by getting energy from another person or thing? Let me break it down.

In the old paradigm, we tell ourselves, “If I can just get someone to love me and that I can truly love, I’ll be alright.” Or, “If I can just get the approval of my peers or impress my boss enough, then I’ll have emotional and financial security.” In the old paradigm, every action is taken with the need for approval or the need to impress. And why do we do this? For one simple reason and that is to gain the energy of another. Because think of it, if we didn’t need the energy of others, would we even bother with the song and dance? No!

In the new paradigm, the goal is to realize that energy comes from connecting to Godsource via the act of loving ourselves. When we embrace our inner family- the inner child, the inner warrior, the inner nurturer, the inner sage and so forth, THEN we are in a position to tap into our Godsource and truly be intimate with another.

Don’t get me wrong. Intimacy with another is a great thing, but we truly can’t be intimate without vulnerability, and vulnerability is the gift we give to another only when we truly love ourselves. The main reason we are afraid to be vulnerable is because if we are and the person doesn’t reciprocate, then our persons feel completely and utterly demolished- that is if we don’t love ourselves enough. Because if we did love ourselves, although it might hurt when love isn’t reciprocated, we still would have a steady stream of love and energy coming from within.

So, how does this all relate to Step 5? In order to explain this fully, I’d like to share another story with you from my personal life:

Back in 2002, my friend Kevin Jackson put on a major conference in Atlanta called The Gathering of Masters of which I helped to coordinate. There were over 15 powerful speakers lined up from, Dick Gregory, Sobonfu Some, Dr. Charles Finch, Dr. Delbert Blair, Hakim Bey, Dr. Phil Valentine, and Dr. Jewel Poolkrum, just to name a few. With all the big names also came some big egos and needless to say, as the coordinator, with only one volunteer, I was stressed out between meeting the needs of the speakers, the vendors, the attendants, and keeping my sanity.

The first day, there wasn’t even time enough for me to even have a lunch break. By the end of the day, I had reached a breaking point and I decided to go completely within as a coping mechanism. I found myself standing in a trance during the last lecture, in a meditation that lasted nearly four hours, long after everybody had left the hall and stopped trying to get me to respond to anything. I lost complete track of time. I ended up going deep into my heart space where it was told to me, “Be present with presence. Release the need for approval and the need to impress.” A deep sense of presence fell over me in that moment and I entered the space of my heart. I began to use the whole conference as my homeopathic pill. I was able to see, through being present, all the ways my actions were done with the need to get the approval of others and my need to impress, AND I began to see how it was all connected to the areas of my life where my inner family wasn’t nurtured.

I began to see just how deep a gap there was within me that wasn’t being fulfilled. I also began to really see the motivations behind some of my actions. Even my actions to serve, while altruistic, also had an edge of wanting to be important and associated with these “masters,” but at the same time being afraid to shine my light. This type of honesty was a hard pill to take, yet in a way it was liberating to see how much the need for approval and the need to impress were ruling my life.

So, when we stay present in the moment, in our bodies, with presence and the intention of seeing how many of our actions are based on us getting energy from another rather than relying on Source- it’s a liberating experience.

As a matter of fact, if you really want to know my truth, I believe if we were to just do this and no other practices, eventually it would free us to become the immortals we were destined to be at this time! Okay, so with that said, here is your activity for this step.

Activity for Step 5:

Task #1
For 5 minutes when you wake up and for 5 minutes before going to bed, when you are eating, when you go to the bathroom, when you are waiting, when you are traveling and whenever else it is possible, just center into your body and feel yourself there in the present moment. Focus on feeling different parts of your body at random from your feet, all the way to your head with complete presence. This exercise helps you to build muscles so you’ll have a better chance of remembering to stay in your own energy field when you are talking to others, especially someone you consider “difficult” or “desirable.” Also, before opening your mouth to speak to anyone take a deep breath and inwardly thank the person for being there.

Task #2
Throughout the day, whenever you find yourself slipping out of the present moment and losing your presence, just say, “Out of all the things I have to do, all the things I love to do and all the things I was destined to do, nothing is more important than what I am doing right now.” Take a deep breath and focus inwardly in your body.

Task #3
I learned this practice from a technique called Access Consciousness, founded by Gary Douglas and I find it to be very useful. It’s based on the premise that most of the thoughts that come into our minds are not even ours. They are part of the collective consciousness and they only become “ours” when we decide to react or identify with them. So as the first line of defense AND healing for the collective, anytime a limiting or fearful thought comes up, ask yourself, “Whose thought is this?” If you get a sense that it isn’t originating from your person, then you say, “Return to sender with loving consciousness attached.” By returning it to the sender, with loving consciousness, you are not only strengthening yourself, but you are also helping to do your part in clearing the collective consciousness as well.

So that was Step #5. Next, we’ll be covering the four (4) pitfalls to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator and the last pitfall is a biggie!

Today’s inspiration comes from Day 100 of  Manifest Your Desires: 365 Ways to Make Your Dreams A Reality by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Enjoy!

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Your emotions are absolute indicators of your vibrational content. Therefore, they are the perfect reflection of your current point of attraction. Emotions help you know, in any moment, whether or not you are currently allowing the fulfillment or your desire… It is our encouragement that you pay attention to how you feel and allow your emotions to be the valuable indicators they are.

Bee a Queen or a King AND a Star

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“The knowledge to master our weaknesses to make them strengths is important, but the wisdom to master the power born out of our strengths is even more important.” -DeBorah Bellony

Everything is Relative
When it comes to male and female relationships, we are more alike than we like to think. It’s just a matter of whether we are “inside or outside” of each other, connected or unconnected-literally. For example, when a man is not “inside” a woman, he is not really that interested in a lot of communication and her need to express her feelings about every little thing. However, when he is “inside” of her, he wants to know exactly how she is feeling and communication becomes the holy grail.

Another example, when a man is “outside” of a woman, she detests his innate desire to “spread his seed.” However, say the woman wants to get pregnant. Then she becomes really interested in how plentiful, how far and how vast his seed can spread so that the best sperm is selected for her baby.

The End of Dualism
As we come to an end to duality consciousness, the traditional gender, race and generational roles we have played are changing. This is not so much because we have strayed away from the “original plan,” as much as it is because Life/ The Universe/ G.O.D. uses the sum total of all of our experiences so we can all become the master or spiritually evolved “grown-ups” we were are all destined to be-in our own time. Because we are all aspects of the Creator experiencing Itself through Its creation, there essentially isn’t any failure. I guess it’s similar to the biblical story of the prodigal son coming home. Yet, when we don’t see life from this perspective we are like the jealous, elder son that doesn’t see why his father son would celebrate the coming home of his wayward brother.

In Chapter 1 of my e-book, Afraid of Our Own Shadow, I state that as the universe and world evolves, as well as individuals within it, there are consequences and timelines for holding certain conclusions (judgments) that eventually meet up with a certain fate. It doesn’t matter how seemingly “good or bad” these conclusions are, when we see it as only being one way or another, our persons will eventually have the opportunity to experience its opposite as well.

“The most powerfully potent thing on the planet is our perception.” -DeBorah Bellony

As humanity evolves to its next playing field of existence, a new perception of the interconnectedness of all things must be adopted to be able to hold the higher frequencies. In the blog post, “J” is for Jack and January is for Initiation,  I state that all numbers after 10 enter a level of mastery or what I call androgyny, where they are both odd and even or male and female. In other words, there is an aspect of balance or non dualism inherent in them. For example, a 2 is a 2 and that means it’s an even number. No matter how you slice it, it’s polarized. However, 11 is an odd number, but when you add it together 1+1=2, it becomes and even number.

Two States and Two Types
There are two states of being and two types of beings on the planet. The two states are awake and asleep, and the two beings are initiated and uninitiated. All four are relative in certain areas and to certain degrees, so everyone can have a little of all four, depending on the area of life we are talking about.

The initiated being can be likened unto a King or Queen in that area. They can also be likened unto the perfect, most caring father or mother that provides and/or nurtures their child to become the true adults they will someday be, with the least amount of drama. They never force their sexual or aspirational desires on that child because of their own integrity, impeccability, emotional maturity and self discipline.

In the area of personal, intimate relationships, every Queen is initiated through loving every uninitiated man “as if” he were his son, and every King is initiated through loving every uninitiated woman “as if” she were his daughter. What do I mean by this?

There are no heavy sexual, financial or emotional projections or expectations. There aren’t any “not my kin” issues that would prevent him or her from displaying a “perfect” love in that connection. In other words, there is an instinctual, deeply rooted connection and vested interest in seeing this individual thrive, irregardless of ones own personal desires.

Be A Star!
There are two things we like to go around saying. One is that we are Kings or Queens, and the other is that we are Stars. So now that you have my definition of a King and Queen, let me give you my definition of a star. The true definition of a star is self-generated energy. A sun is a star and doesn’t need anything from the planets that revolve around it. Instead, it generates energy, shining a beautiful life-force to all it supports.

So let me ask, are you a King or a Queen? Are you a star? To what degree and how far? May we all embody our Auset and Ausar!

Conscious Co-Creation: Step 4

Today’s inspiration comes from Chapter 4 of my e-book, Afraid Of Our Own Shadow: A Manifesto and Guide to Conscious Co-Creation. Enjoy!

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Chapter 4: Conscious Co-Creation: Step 4

In this chapter, I’ll be sharing the fourth step to Becoming a Conscious Co-Creator and as always, I’ll have an activity for you at the end.

Step # 4
Allow Old Charge to Come Up Without Resistance

Before I get started on Step 4, let’s do a quick review:

Step 1: Know Who and What GOD Is
Step 2: Know Your Intrinsic Worth as an Aspect of Divinity
Step 3: Align Your Person, Your Power, and Your Purpose With the Creator of All That Is

Imagine if someone has been feeling a strong emotion or doing a certain action, and creating a certain self-image, for over 60 years and then one day, they decide to change. It is a that very moment that this person will have the greatest challenge. All that time and momentum they have invested in feeling, doing and seeing themselves a certain way that they now choose not to, is what is called charge. The most profound charge effecting our lives today is gathered from our prenatal and childhood experiences and continues to build momentum year by year. However, charge also comes from past lives, past generations and our collective consciousness on this planet.

As we claim to the world our new self-image, “This is Who I Am,” then everything unlike it will come up to be purified and to consolidate us in this new self-image. This is not to be seen as negative, OR something that requires changing things and especially people on the outside. The reason for this is because things and people are simply mirroring what is going on INSIDE of us, and in this case is based on your past self- image- which we’ll call charge.

The good news is the process can be fail proof and quite easy when we have the courage to allow ourselves to feel it all, without blaming, judgment or trying to fix the outside mirror. All of this hinders the process necessary to release old charge. One of my teachers once told me, trying to change or fix the thing on the outside is like looking into a mirror to comb your hair, but instead of combing your own hair, you try to comb the hair reflected in the mirror. Now, we all know this is impossible, yet in our lives it becomes challenging to resist the urge to do this, especially if we’ve been doing this for a long time.

I’d like to share with you another analogy that I came up with explaining this whole process so you can gain even more clarity. Image if you will the scorching hot sun of say the Sahara dessert. We’ll call this sun the Sun of Observation for the purposes of this analogy. Now, image if you will a large truck filled with frozen ice, you know the big, big chunks used for transporting perishable foods. We’ll call this frozen ice the ice of Frozen Past Emotions and experiences. If we were to unload that truck with all of that ice into the dessert, do you think we would need to do anything physically for it to melt into the water of fresh fluid Experiences? No! All we would need to do is let the scorching hot Sun of Observation do its magic and within no time there would be no more ice, no more Frozen Emotions and Experiences. So, just by observing your feelings and your reactions to people without judgment, eventually all the old charge melts away leaving you more refreshed and renewed into your new self-image.

Now, I just want to say here that there are some great techniques available that can aid in the process of releasing old emotions. Techniques like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) which involves tapping on certain meridian points on the body used in acupuncture when negative past emotions come up, as well as ThetaHealing, which involves tapping into the theta brainwave, where true healing can take place and asking GodSource for the healing or release. These techniques and others are great and can be quite useful. Yet, I also want to stress here that for those of you who are able (and are not suffering from severely traumatic experiences), allowing your person to feel (NOT dwell on- and I’ll explain the difference in a minute) the emotion, no matter how uncomfortable it may be seem, allows for great insight to be gained. You see, when we just want to hurry up and get out of the pain or to fall for the temptation of changing the thing or person in the mirror, we lose a great opportunity for self-knowledge that comes with the awareness of understanding our patterns of the past. The more aware we are of these patterns, the more we are able to notice them when they come up. And they come up every where! In the things that we say, the thoughts that we entertain, the people we attract and the responses we have to these people. Awareness of these patterns is the greatest step toward liberation. I want to stress here that it’s only by being willing to feel the feelings that come up in the moment, that we are able to gain this awareness of patterns. Now we are not dwelling on the feelings, we are simply acknowledging they are there and saying “thank you, that’s nice to know” without judgment.

On another note, I want to share two reasons why this process of releasing old charge is important BEFORE we take an active role in working towards conscious co-creations. If we switch straight into co-creation mode (full force ahead) without addressing the old charge, I’m going to share two analogies of the problems that may arise:

Analogy #1

The Healing Crisis
For those of you familiar with health and nutrition, you know that a lot of would be converts loose hope when they start to eat more healthy without first addressing all the existing toxins in their body. Eventually all the toxins that were in the body before begin to push their way into the cleansing organs and blood stream and if not handled in a systematic way, it can cause what is coined in the healing profession as a “healing crisis.”

Analogy #2

Be Careful of What You Ask for Because You Just Might Get It.
In other words, if we begin the process of co-creating and we don’t truly know why we want what we want, then chances are we might not be happy when we get it.

I’ll give you an example from my own life. For years, one of my person’s goals has been to have a cellulite free, muscularly defined body. Now part of the reason for this goal I know is that as a former college basketball player, my person remembers the freedom I felt around being in shape. But, when I began to dig deeper and become more aware of my patterns and subconscious desired, I realized this need to be muscularly toned was centered around my person’s need to either impress others as a means of gaining approval or to defend my person from being hurt by others. So, now I’ve really eased up on this goal that used to run my life and be the source of much guilt and self-judgment based on my level of self awareness.

This leads me into the topic of what spirituality truly is. Spirituality is simply awareness without judgment. When we are aware of what we are up to, eventually and with time we act in a more spiritual way. Essentially, it’s not what we want (altruistic or self serving), but why we want it and not what we do, but why we do it that makes the biggest difference in our lives.

Some of us mistake spiritual practice with spirituality; however, meditating everyday and doing rituals, yoga and even praising G.O.D doesn’t make us spiritual. We are spiritual when through awareness we are able to recognize when we are at that a crossroads situation and we have to make the choice to act based on our old self-image or based on our new self-image of what we want to experience.

So, I’ll share my last analogy to bring this point home before switching gears into the activity for this step. This last analogy is based on my years as a former college basketball player. Everyday, Monday through Sunday, we had practice in the gym. Pre season we even had the initiation or rites-of-passage of conditioning to prepare us for the new season. Now all of this practice and preparation was executed by our coach with the hopes that when game time came (which can be likened to the game of life), we would perform to our greatest abilities and thus make ourselves and our coach proud. The key here is to perform, because even though our coach wanted us to win, she was more concerned that we played a game honorable to our skill set. And so it is with spiritual practice. It is done with the hope that in the game of life, our current level of awareness will allow us to make choices based on our current self image. Okay, so with that said, here is your activity for this step.

Activity for Step 4
1. With your new self-image in mind, write down all the ways that your person has sabotaged you in the past or that you can imagine it will try to sabotage you in the future.

2. Now, for the entire week, commit to feeling and allowing the old charge to just come up without judgment. If you are use to reacting to others-stop. Or at least acknowledge without judgment that this is what you are doing.

3. At the end of the day, write in a journal all the things that came up for the day and how you chose to handle them.

So that was Step # 4. Next, we’ll be covering Step #5.